first_imgBy Tiffany BaileyThere are lines in a relationship that should never be crossed. Sometimes women allow men to test these boundaries and the lines of right and wrong become blurred. Many of the women that end up in abusive relationships are accustomed to being treated in a poor way and often don’t notice when their situation becomes compromised. The signs of a dangerous position may not be clear to the person stuck in it. Being aware of your surroundings and things happening in your life can make all the difference between being safe and not.Forcing SexSome women don’t believe that you can be raped by your boyfriend or husband, but you can. If your partner is forcing you to do things you are uncomfortable doing or have said “no” to doing, he is violating you. Some men have the idea that because you are their partner, you are essentially their property. This is not the case, and you should make that perfectly clear. If he cannot respect you saying “no” to sex or foreplay, he doesn’t respect you as a person. This could escalate into a potentially dangerous situation and you should be careful if this is something you are experiencing.Verbal AttacksBeing talked down to or screamed at is unacceptable. Of course there will be some verbal arguments throughout the relationship, but it should not be a daily habit. Words do hurt, even if you think they don’t. Something your partner said may not bug you today or tomorrow, but you will hear those words in your head at some point. For some, those things that are said haunt them daily and bring down their self worth. Never let a man take away your happiness. In a partnership you should not feel bad all the time. I was in a severely verbally abusive relationship for almost three years right out of high school. I was constantly told I was worthless. Eventually he wore my self-esteem down to nothing and I began believing I was not worth anything to anyone. Looking back at that relationship almost seven years later, I can see when the abuse started and I shudder to think about where it could have ended if I had stuck around.Physical AttacksFights are an inevitable part of a relationship. Sometimes couples will “play” fight and wrestle each other around. Other times, things get out of control and people get hurt. It is never acceptable for your partner to hit you or doing anything that will bring harm to you. Repeat offenders will apologize after they hurt you and promise it will never happen again. Those promises are usually broken time and time again. Physical violence can lead to serious injuries and in worst case scenarios, death.StalkingThis is one that women don’t take as seriously as they should. If your partner is showing up at your work, waiting in your driveway when you come home, and driving by a friend’s house to see if that is really where you are, things are getting out of control. Once this behavior has begun, it may never end. One of my close friends had this exact issue with her boyfriend. He was going off the deep end with messages and dropping things in conversations like he could never live without her. He followed her all around town, at work, and even parked around the corner to spy on her at her own house. Things got creepy really fast. She had to get a restraining order on him. Eventually things calmed down, but it could have turned out much worse.Signs of danger in a relationship are sometimes tricky to read. Everyone knows that physical violence is a definite warning sign, but some don’t take the other signs seriously. Protecting yourself is number one and everything else comes second. If you are in an abusive or dangerous situation, you need to get help and get out. Your partner should make you happy, not hurt you in any way, shape, or form. Share Tweet Share 22 Views   no discussionscenter_img Sharing is caring! LifestyleRelationships Signs of a dangerous relationship by: – June 22, 2011 Sharelast_img read more

first_img Published on March 29, 2018 at 5:46 pm Contact Matthew: [email protected] | @MatthewGut21 Comments Facebook Twitter Google+center_img Over the past 72 hours, Annette Moyer’s phone has been “ringing off the hook,” she told The Daily Orange. Dozens of college coaches at Power 5 programs have called her to inquire about her son, Matthew Moyer, who announced Monday that he would leave the Syracuse program.Moyer did not return a phone call, and his mother declined to explain why he left the program. But she said Moyer plans to make about three official visits as he decides on his next destination. When he finalizes his next stop, Moyer will arrive at the beginning of the summer. Among his top options are Xavier and Stanford, she said. He already has declined offers from “blue-blood programs,” she said, because he wants to be “challenged academically.”The Ohio native originally chose the Orange over offers from Arizona State, Butler, Florida, Kansas State, Virginia Tech, Wake Forest and Wisconsin, among others. He became “very interested” in Syracuse because he developed a strong relationship with SU assistant coach Gerry McNamara, Annette said. Moyer said that McNamara “found me in Ohio” and knocked on Moyer’s door because he wanted Moyer to play for SU.Moyer’s mother said neither she nor his father wanted him to play at Syracuse out of high school, but Moyer dreamed of playing for the Orange since he was a little kid. He redshirted the entirety of last season and struggled this year in his only active season with Syracuse, oftentimes getting chastised by head coach Jim Boeheim.“Obviously coach Boeheim can be tough sometimes,” Moyer said last week.AdvertisementThis is placeholder textMoyer was the first SU men’s basketball scholarship player to be a student in the S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications. That did not factor into Moyer’s decision to leave, she said. Moyer elected to major in Newhouse because of its prestige, not necessarily because he had intentions of a career in communications.Annette added that several coaches who recruited Moyer in high school have told her this week that they are still interested in him. That’s despite his career at SU hitting a few roadblocks — notably an injury on Jan. 24 that contributed to him losing a spot in the starting lineup. Coaches have told Annette that they could “work him into the program well.”last_img read more